I have
spent a good chunk of time over the past two weeks breaking into tears. Some sessions last only a minute and shed a
tear or two; maybe just a welling of water in the eyes. Others have gone on for longer, with drops
falling down my face. Tears grown from
frustration, lack of sleep, fear, and in the end: utter bliss.
A few
months back I made a conscience decision to join the folks on the ground in
Pennsylvania to re-elect President Obama.
I was hesitant at first, because there were places across the country
I’d thought about going – where could I be the most effective? Expanding the map in the West was most
appealing to me, and I do love Colorado.
Marriage was on the ballot in three states, too, and one of them was
Maine. In 2009, I spent a month in the
great cliff state, knocking doors, making phone calls, and talking to people
about why marriage equality matters. In
the end, we lost that race by 5 points.
Fast forward to 11/6/12 and we reversed the numbers: equality reigned
and we won by 5 points.
The thing
about working a single-issue campaign is that you’re not working with party
people. You might not believe it, but I
worked with Republicans in Maine who were for marriage. I learned quickly to hold my partisan
tongue.
I was called
upon and lobbied by folks I’d met on the trail there to come back because
they’d returned. But I yearned for
something grander. So I dropped the
holding of the tongue and went all in for the Democratic Party to secure the
White House for another four years. Fuck
it. I’m a party person.
The 44th President is
also the first sitting president to tell me that I’m equal. He told me and millions of others that as gay
and lesbian Americans, we’re worthy and indeed entitled to the same rights as our
straight brethren. And that to me held
far greater weight than winning the rights in just one state. Now sure, equality is a battle we’re waging
town by municipality, county by state.
So in no way am I discrediting the great wins across the nation for
marriage on 11/6. And let’s note that
there were three wins, HUGE wins, for marriage at the ballot box: Maine,
Washington, and Maryland. Minnesota
rejected an anti-gay amendment to their state constitution – also a first in
the nation. But the national leader was
in our boat, and he needed to be kept in office.
So I joined the national fight.
My friend Troy, whom I’d met on the
marriage campaign in ’09, was tapped to direct Outer Alleghany County in
Western PA. It’s the whole county, sans
Pittsburgh – which had its own team. It’s
crucial turf to securing the 20 Electoral College votes that PA awards when you
win the state. Pittsburgh and Philly
turn out big and we buttress those votes by holding the line and pushing it
blue in the suburbs on Election Day. And
that we did.
The team I worked with boosted
county turn out from a standard 50% to 70% on Election Day this year. That is remarkable. And it’s one of the many reasons we won, and
won by a solid 5 points.
Pennsylvania is a unique
state. It’s always in the swing category
because you have to fight for it. It has
not voted for a Republican president since 1988. But it’s blue is not a given. Romney had money, but didn’t have the ground
game. He also had the gall to show up
after being absent for a month three times in the last four days of the
election. How cute.
Another unique factor is that
you’ve only got 13 hours to win it.
There is no early voting and it’s extraordinarily difficult to get an
absentee ballot from. They don’t like
voters in the Keystone, and more so since they enacted an oppressive voter ID
law. So you’ve got to fight with what you’ve
got and you do that by organizing. You
do so by talking, by planning, by out smarting and being ever prepared for the
unexpected. You knock doors until your
knuckles are blue and people ignore you.
You go back to the same doors the next day in the rain, and maybe the
next day, too, to make sure people realize just how important it is that they
exercise their fundamental right to vote.
And do so on behalf of Barack Obama.
There was a wrench in this battle
though, and her name was Sandy.
There’s a saying, and I’m not sure
where I got it, but it’s that Republicans vote come hell or high water and
Democrats vote when it’s convenient. The
fear I had from the storm – bringing lots of high water – was that it would
suppress Democratic turnout. Thankfully,
that didn’t happen. It was in large part
because of how long organizers had been engaged with voters whom they made
realize just how important a role they had in determining the course of this
country.
Dealing with the storm was also
particularly difficult for me. New York
City was a direct target of the storm, and it really hurt that I wasn’t there
to help. Everyone tells me how lucky I
was to be spared by not being here, New York is my home. Seventy percent of the people in the district
my boss represents were without electricity, heat, and hot water; homes were
flooded; lives upended. These are people
I know and have been working with for years.
Not to mention the friends who were in trouble. While I was thanked profusely upon my return
for helping to re-elect the President, it hurt that I wasn’t there to lend them
a hand in their time of need. Thankfully,
I was distracted and kept busy by the campaign and an amazing team. Even once we won, I was nervous to come back
to New York. I wasn’t sure what to
expect and afraid of what might have changed.
Which brings me to time. A month is a pretty long time though it felt
like only a day. I decided to head to
Philly for the close out and party. Friends
sent messages saying, “Are you coming back?
You won!” And yes, I came back,
but didn’t necessarily want to.
Campaigns only come around every so often and the people you work with
are some of the most amazing people in the world. Maybe it’s just because I’ve been working
campaigns since before I could vote so know a lot of these types now, but
still. I’m reminded anew each time just
how great people are who work to win for something you believe in. It’s a familial thing. You work to turn out crazy Americans to vote,
but you’re all just as fucking crazy being the ones there day in and day out
until 3, 4, or 5 in the morning, or sometimes just not going to bed at
all. It’s because there’s a deadline,
and it’s set in stone.
I’m so thankful to my boss and
colleagues for letting me take the time off work to fight. When I spoke to Dick the day after the Election
Day, after we both calmed down about how many glorious victories there were, I
thanked him again for letting me join the race.
He then thanked me for doing it, because it meant just as much to him as
it did to me. The same goes for my Chief
of Staff and all my colleagues, they thanked me in the end and it means the
world to me.
We won. We defended every Democratic Senate seat and
picked up two more. We gained seats in
the house, and made sure rape continues to be recognized as an egregious and
horrific act of violence – not some god created event to bear a child or being
such thing as a legitimate or not. We
legalized marijuana in two states. I
call this a progressive cause for a couple of reasons: one of them being about
choice. And with pot legal, we can tax
the shit out of it and put that money towards education and infrastructure. People keep calling for creative solutions to
fixing budget deficits. Well there is
one growing right in front of us, and two states said yes to it (CO and
WA).
And we won on equality. The bigots were sidelined and will continue
to be banished to the back pages of history with the likes of all those who
have disregard individual liberty.
So that’s why the tears keep
coming. Headlines and news stories,
commentary and conversation all bring an emotional validation of victory.
The resident of the White House
stands for me (not to mention the millions of other Americans who he fights for
– for healthcare and jobs, for education and access to contraception). The wins of 11/6 carry weight because of what
was at stake and I couldn’t be happier to have been a part of it. It feels good to fight; better to win.
Congratulations to all those who
chose to take up the mantle for a cause this year. Revel in your victory, and when it hits you,
let the tears roll.